What are parents afraid of?

Posted: July 19, 2006 in Misc., My Opinion, Personality, Random, Uncategorized

Have parents today become so afraid of losing their children that they totally ignore all rules pertaining to parenting?  Are mothers so fearful of the fact that their daughters won’t be their “friend” that they essentially support deviant behavior.  For example, for the last 30 minutes I have been listening to a conversation between a mother and daughter that is happening in the next room.  The daughter, who is approximately 19-20 has been talking about boys non-stop.  She has been talking about juggling boys, dumping boys, being dumped by boys and future boys.  This girl clearly has a problem being alone.  As soon as she breaks up with a guy, or a guy breaks up with her, she has someone else.  If I were her mother, which I am obviously not, I would be telling her to take it slow, not to worry about finding a guy, because it will happen when you least expect it.  I would tell her to focus on herself during these young years and establish yourself and do all of the things that you want to do.  Instead I am hearing the mother encourage this conversation.  I hear the mother thriving on the gossip just like as if her daughter were talking to her college roommate.  Now I know there comes a time when you need to let your children live their lives, make their decisions and suffer the consequences of their actions but as a parent it is also your responsibility to educate your children and protect them, no matter what age they are and I find it disturbing that you refuse to act as a parent because you are living vicariously through your children and because you would rather be their friend than their parent.

  1. Beppo says:

    I think there’s multiple factors at work here. Your point is valid, plus modern psychology / sociology says parents don’t have much influence on how their children turn out, and our society seems to encourage irresponsibility with parenting. (I’ve written on this some, how we tend to value our career and making lots of money over raising children.) I also think a large number of people just aren’t mature enough to make the right decisions in parenting. Modernism / humanism tell us that we know more than older generations, so there’s no need to listen to them or learn from history. And so there’s all these people who think they’re smart because they’re part of the most intelligent generation ever (supposedly), yet they aren’t even aware of their own ignorance.

    I could get going on this (if you haven’t noticed), but I’ll stop now…

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